Beautiful means being yourself and being a fucking UNICORN!
As I sat to write this post I thought it was going to be about my natural hair. I never expected it to turn into a post about what is beautiful. I was looking back through all of the positive feedback I’ve gotten about this blog, and references to my hair have been plenty. I wanted to do a whole tribute post dedicated to women with naturally curly hair. I still plan to do that post, and I’m sorry if this paragraph is a bit of a tease. But, as I was doing the necessary research to write the article, another thought hit me. Why should natural hair matter? Why should it be that huge of a deal that some women are embracing the way their hair grows out of their heads? Why do we like to look at magazine articles that feature beautiful women without makeup like it’s some sort of anomaly to not wear makeup? This is the thought that hit me…and shall like to expound on it further!
In an interview with The Daily Beast, Ashley Judd said this about criticism of her “fat face”:
“This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we … have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly. It doesn’t actually matter if we are aging naturally, or resorting to surgical assistance. We experience brutal criticism. The dialogue is constructed so that our bodies are a source of speculation, ridicule, and invalidation…. The insanity has to stop.”
Basically what she has said here is that women are damned if we do and damned if we don’t and I must totally fucking agree! If we go under the knife to fix our flaws, we are deemed fake and superficial. If we keep that chipped tooth or one boob that’s bigger than the other we called are a plethora of inappropriate names. We celebrate women who don’t seem to be growing old and shun the women who are. But here’s the thing….We are supposed to be growing old. Whatever it is that you believe in, all of the religions and scientific sects agree that we are born, we grow old, and then we die. So why is Jamie Lee Curtis (who is old enough to be part of the golden age of horror) criticized for having gray hair? She looks beautiful with her silver coif BTW!
Here’s my take on the whole ordeal. I have days when I want to pull my panties over my head and dive in a hole. But far more often, I have days when I feel like my nappy assed hair is sexy, beautiful, and edgy! When I feel like my huge eyes are going to help me get something that I have been asking my husband for! I even have days when I think…”fuck it! My toes nails may have been a dark tan shade since the day I was born, and automatically make any toe nail polish I wear a shade darker…but DAMNIT I’m wearing these flip flops!” Instead of asking “what’s wrong with me?” I shop for nail polish that will look good a shade darker! When life gives you lemons…make yourself a Brassy Blond! If we as women take our ‘Give-A-Fuck-O-Meter’ and smash it to the ground we will take back the power.
It may seem like I’m ranting here…and…I kinda am! But, the point is this; there are many beautiful women (in Hollywood and everyday life) that we can look to for inspiration and strength. These women refuse to let Hollywood, society or stardom change their essence. They are who they are and they embrace that…even in the face of harsh criticisms, going against the norm, and skewed ideals of what is beautiful.